Married to a Pedophile: A Father of Abused Children – The Rest of the Story

The last post I wrote was powerful.  It was also sad and heart wrenching.  It brought me and thousands of others to tears as we read the words of a father speak out about how his children were abused by the man I called my husband for almost forty years.  I haven’t slept a night through since this story was published.  Why?  Because I still find it so dehumanizing to think of what pedophiles do to children, and it is heartbreaking to me to know that this type of abuse goes on day after day while good, honest, caring parents are unable to recognize the abuse.  We must get better educated! 

Please read these comments from the father of some of the many children John Hinton abused.  Read his comments, then read them again and again until you grasp the way pedophiles work.

Note:  I have not changed anything that Dave has written.  These are his words spoken from his life and from his heart.  May God bless this man for having the willingness and the courage to speak out on behalf of all children!

“Every Sunday as we went to church, the routine was the same.  As soon as we walked through the church doors my children would ask, ‘Where’s John?’.  If John was there, they would run to him. Yes, I said that right.  They would RUN to him, and he would bend down and pick up one of the girls.  Church members thought that was just so sweet.  There were so many red flags at this point.  If only I knew how these predators worked at that time!

John took advantage of our ignorance and our brokenness and used it to his advantage.  You see, the biggest threat to those who want to do our children harm is education.  We must learn how they work, manipulate and groom!  That is why I support Church Protect and what they do.  I didn’t know how child predators worked and my family paid a very dear price.  You don’t have to go through what my family and I did.  Protect yourself and your children.  GET EDUCATED!  This is why I tell my story.  Child sex abuse is preventable! 

There came a point where John told me that he lost his job as a babysitter.  If it was true or not, I don’t know.  He would begin to say things to me like, ‘I don’t have any food.  I don’t know how I’m going to take the kids swimming.  I don’t have any gas in the car.’  Now, being a single parent with 5 children I didn’t have a lot of money, but I gave money to him anyway.  Why?  Because my kids had fun with John and I didn’t want to disappoint them.

Not only did John abuse my children, but he was also mentally abusing me and I didn’t even know it!  I even sold my Harley at this point.  I didn’t get to ride it much, and we really needed the money.  I gave John a pretty big amount of money from that sale, which in turn he would take my money and use it to buy gifts for my children to keep them quiet about the abuse.  I can’t even begin to tell you how that makes me feel.  John used me to help fund his perversion on my own children! Child predators are heartless, selfish individuals, and they don’t care who they have to hurt as long as they get the chance to abuse!

As my mentor, John had me right where he wanted me.  When I would tell John that my kids weren’t allowed to go swimming or shopping because I had grounded them for some type of misbehavior, John would say, ‘Brother, I think you’re making a big mistake.  Let me take them and you can have some quiet time. You’re very stressed and you’re making bad parenting decisions.’  Then he would tell me how he handled situations when his children misbehaved.  He made me believe that I was being too hard on my kids, and I believed him!  John had me second guessing my every decision I ever made — not just about parenting, but about everything in my life.

I could go on and on with story after story about John Hinton and his sick, twisted games he played with me and my family. Even after John’s arrest he blamed everybody else but himself.  He wrote me letters from prison asking forgiveness, and also asking for pictures of my children all while asking for leniency.  He wanted to get out of prison, come to my house, put my children on his lap and tell them it wasn’t their fault he abused them.

Luckily, at this time my children were in counseling and as you could expect, my kids weren’t leaving my sight.  I was told it would be good if I would get some counseling, too.  I was placed in the same room as my kids just at different ends of the room.  I wouldn’t have it any other way!  So, now I started learning how child predators work.  As the counselor started talking, it was like she was reading my book.  I felt so sick that the room started spinning.  How could I have been so stupid?!?

Through counseling, I finally began to see through John Hinton’s manipulation and I could now see why he chose me and my children.  Never will I ever allow John to see my kids or a picture of my kids!

I never wrote him in prison even though he wrote me quite frequently.  I would get sick when I looked in the mail box and saw a letter from John.  You see he was still abusing me mentally through letters.  I had to call the prison and talk to the security officer.  I told him who I was and that I wanted John Hinton to stop writing me!  I understand now how these predators work, and I had to put a final stop to it.  I stood up to John!  And, it felt good!  I’m not as bad a person as he said I was.  The effects of abuse are long- lasting and life altering.

Our lives are forever changed. 

Please get educated!  Learn all that you can.  Don’t let this happen to you or your family.  Today you are a voice for those who have no voice.  It’s time to break the silence of abuse! ”

Do you understand a bit more how these child predators work?  Can you see the mind games they play?  Do you see how they choose a parent who will give them their total trust AND finally give them their very own innocent child?

Child predators are very well educated about how to manipulate others.  They understand vulnerability, and they know just who to prey upon.

I stand united with this father and will shout it from the rooftops!  We must be ten steps ahead of the predator and the only way we can do this is by getting educated about how these molesters work!

Please visit Church Protect.  This safe place has been created for you to help you keep your children safe.  As this father said so beautifully, “Please get educated.  Learn all you can.  Don’t let this happen to you or your family.  You are a voice for those who have no voice.  It’s time to break the silent of abuse!”

Thank you, Dave, for your willingness to speak out.  You have helped so many, I am sure!  And, thank you to all who take this seriously and who continue to fight this battle.

Together we can be a unified, strong voice.  With proper education we can stop this cycle of abuse on our precious children.  The time to do it is now!

Love,

Clara Hinton

If you are interested in learning more, please email me at clarahintonspeaker@gmail.com or get in touch with Jimmy Hinton at Church Protect.