Married to a Pedophile: Son of a Pedophile Speaks Out

You’ve been hearing from me, the former wife of a pedophile, for several months now. I’ve been telling my story about what it was like being married to a practicing pedophile and not finding out about this “dark side” until after almost forty years of marriage.

I will continue to tell my story and expose more and more of the “red flags” that were present in our marriage from the very day we were married.  This is a difficult thing to talk about — certainly not a pleasurable topic — but the message must get out if we are going to halt these molesters and do all that we can to keep our children safe.

But, what about my children?  They’ve suffered untold grief since finding this out about their dad.  They respected him above anyone else on earth.  He was the father that they were so very proud of — the one that other kids envied.  And, now….he sits in prison for the remainder of his days as a punishment for crimes he committed against many, many children.

My son Jimmy has the very unique position in our family of being the sixth child — making him a middle child.  He also is a minister, but not just any minister.  He is serving at the very same church where his dad served for over thirty years.   

When John found out that he was under investigation, a strange turn of events came about within minutes of the police visiting him.  John called Jimmy and said, “We have to talk.”  It was during this father and son talk that John revealed who he was to Jimmy.

How much pain could a son’s heart be expected to handle? I will grieve the fact that Jimmy had to hear words from his father that no child should ever have to hear! I will grieve this until the day I go to my grave.  Jimmy has had layer upon layer of pain placed on his heart — and yet — he is standing tall and he continues to honor God in all that he says and does.

Jimmy has held workshops on pedophilia and how to keep our children safe ever since his dad went to prison.  His heart has been filled with a passion to help educate those who are in positions where they come in contact with children on a daily basis.  He has put in hundreds of hours reading and studying so that he can present true, factual information.

Below you will find a video in its completion of the second annual workshop of child abuse that Jimmy has conducted.  Part I is Jimmy speaking, and Part II Jimmy brings in a guest, Les Ferguson, who also has a powerful story to share about child abuse.

The video is long, but you can watch it in segments.  Believe me, it’s worth every minute of your time!  And, I can assure you that you will learn more than you ever dreamed possible!  Please watch the video and share it with your church leaders, daycares, schools, and parent organizations.  Share it with anyone you know who has an interest in keeping our children safe!

Thank you so much for watching.  Thank you so much for caring.  Thank you so much for sharing.

Most of all, thank you so much for doing all you can to keep our children safe!

Love,
Clara
PS This video can also be found on Jimmy’s blog, as well as on the resources page of this site.